Change up your “How are you?” question

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Expansion Boost
  • Sparks engaging conversations: Asking differently invites stories, surprises, and laughter instead of routine responses.
  • Encourages curiosity: You practice noticing new details about others and yourself in social interactions.
  • Promotes playful social interactions: Simple shifts in phrasing can make routine check-ins feel lighter, more interesting, and more memorable.
Spillover Effect
Regularly experimenting with conversation questions trains your social awareness and flexibility. Over time, this playful habit helps you connect more easily, notice subtle social cues, and bring curiosity and energy into everyday interactions — not just special occasions.
Reflection
  • How did the person respond differently than usual?
  • What new information, stories, or energy did this question bring into the conversation?
  • What other small changes could you make to everyday questions to spark curiosity and playfulness?