Is it Plexful? It Depends.
Activities can be Plexful experiences… or not. So much depends on context and mindset. The same activity that feels expansive and exciting in one moment might feel routine or restrictive in another. It’s not just what you do, but how you approach it. Let’s explore how context shapes the Plexfulness of an experience.
Plexing is Stretching Beyond the Comfort Zone
Comfort zones expand as your world expands. The Stretch Zone model uses concentric circles to illustrate how stretching beyond our comfort zone gradually expands it.
Acting “as-if” you were plexful
What would a Plexful person do? Acting the part is the first step to becoming it!
The More You Expand … The More You Expand.
Growth isn’t just about taking one giant leap forward—it’s a continuous cycle. Every time you stretch outside your comfort zone, you’re expanding not just your experiences, but your capacity for future growth. And here’s the exciting part: the more you expand, the more it becomes easier, natural, and even inevitable.
How Plexful are you?
Take this playful quiz to see how much Plex is already in your life—and where you might stretch a little more!
Too Much ‘Brake’, Not Enough ‘Go’? How to Fully Engage in Plex
Sometimes, even when we set aside time for Plex, we struggle to fully engage because our mental “brakes” are still on—stress, distractions, and responsibilities holding us back. Emily Nagoski’s dual control model explains that engagement in play depends on both accelerators (what excites and energizes us) and brakes (what shuts us down). To truly Plex, it’s not about forcing more fun but also about easing off those brakes—letting go of mental clutter, addressing distractions, and giving ourselves permission to be present. The more we practice this balance, the more naturally Plex flows into our lives.
Catch the Playful Vibe: How Surrounding Yourself with Playfulness Expands Your World
Choosing to spend time with playful people and in playful environments can have a profound impact on our lives. Playfulness is contagious, and when we surround ourselves with those who embrace curiosity, creativity, and joy, that energy naturally rubs off on us. It sparks new ideas, deepens connections, and invites more fun and exploration into our lives. Ultimately, by choosing to be around people and spaces that nurture play, we open ourselves to more opportunities for growth, laughter, and the kind of experiences that expand our world in unexpected ways.
Unlocking Potential Through the Power of Redefining Play
Our definitions and associations with the word “play” significantly impact how much we allow it into our lives. By examining and rethinking our personal connotations of play, we can open up new possibilities for incorporating it into our everyday experiences. Redefining play allows us to invite more creativity, freedom, and growth, enriching our lives in ways we may not have imagined. (See the exercise below)
Don’t Think of Play as a Reward—Think of It as Fuel
If you’ve been treating play as something separate from productivity, it’s time to rethink that approach. Play isn’t what you do once you’ve worked hard enough—it’s what helps you work hard in the first place. When you allow yourself to play, you’re not just having fun; you’re unlocking energy, creativity, and resilience that fuel everything else.
Choosing Curiosity Over Comfort is the Key to Expansion
Curiosity is the gateway to expansion and growth, inviting us to step beyond our comfort zones and embrace new experiences. When we face opportunities for novelty, we often default to saying “no” out of fear or habit. By asking ourselves, “Will I choose curiosity or comfort?” we create space to reconsider, stretch our boundaries, and explore fresh possibilities. Choosing curiosity can lead to unexpected growth and transformation, while also offering the flexibility to choose comfort when necessary. Ultimately, curiosity is the key that opens the door to a more expansive, vibrant life.