Which Are Your Play Styles?

As you read through the lists below, notice which ones spark a “That’s totally me,” a “Hmm, I could try that,” or a “Not really my thing.”

Getting to know your style helps you lean into what feels natural—and maybe even rediscover parts of yourself from earlier years.

You might find that your style has evolved—or that it’s just been waiting to be reawakened.

The list shows how each play style can show up in marriage—with real-life examples to spark ideas and inspiration.

You can also blend styles—for example, combining creative and social play by inviting people over for a themed event.

Share about your playfulness styles.

Take time to get to know your own playfulness style—and then share it with each other.

Be curious. This isn’t about wishing your partner were more like you; it’s about understanding and appreciating how you each engage with joy.

The differences aren’t a problem—they’re a gift.

Your different styles can stretch you, expand your world, and invite you into new experiences, perspectives, and even meet people you might never have crossed paths with otherwise.

Play becomes even more meaningful when it’s shared across your unique ways of being.

Playfulness together.

As a couple, you may have different primary playfulness styles—and that’s actually a gift. See where you can weave both styles into shared experiences, or gently stretch your own.

Maybe you love being in nature while your partner enjoys intellectual curiosity—so go on a nature walk and learn about local birds or lizards. If you’re into travel and they’re into childlike fun, plan a stop at a toy museum or quirky roadside attraction.

Playfulness doesn’t have to match to connect; it just has to be open-hearted and shared.